How to Bless Other People’s Chaos Without Adding Your Own A wise and humorous exploration of pastoral presence

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Finding stillness in the middle of someone else’s whirlwind

There are moments in ministry — and, truthfully, in everyday life — when someone approaches us radiating the unmistakable aura of Holy Chaos. You know the look: eyes slightly wild, hair a bit askew, papers fluttering like the wings of distressed seraphim. They say, “Do you have a minute?” which, in ecclesiastical translation, means, “Prepare yourself for an odyssey.”

This is precisely the moment when the clergy heart wants to serve, but the clergy brain whispers, “If you enter this swirling vortex, you may never be seen again.”

Blessing chaos — other people’s chaos — is, in fact, one of the sacred competencies of pastoral ministry. The trick is doing so without adding our own particular brand of chaos to the mix. After all, nothing quite derails an already wobbly parishioner like a rector who mutters, “Oh dear… oh dear,” and then drops their pen in a moment of empathetic collapse.

Over the years, I’ve discovered three spiritual principles that help keep both feet on the ground (or at least pointed in roughly the same direction).

  1. Keep Your Inner Turbulence Off the Check-In Counter

When a parishioner arrives bearing news that resembles a plot rejected by biblical editors for being too dramatic, the temptation is to join them in their melodrama. But wisdom says: keep your turbulence inside the fuselage.

If someone comes in worried about their adult child, do not respond with your own story about the time you misplaced your passport, your sermon, and your sense of direction all before 9 a.m. Empathy does not require matching chaos for chaos like a liturgical auction.

Blessing their chaos begins with not contributing additional plot twists.

  1. Use the Ministry of the Calm Cup

There is a pastoral superpower hidden in plain sight: the quiet, deliberate act of making tea or coffee. When someone is in chaos, and you calmly fill a kettle, you are not merely preparing a beverage — you are performing a sacramental slowing-down.

Some might say we do this because nothing dreadful ever happens at exactly the same speed as boiling water. And they’d be right. The ministry of the calm cup says, without words, “We will proceed at the pace of steeping, not spiralling.”

  1. Bless — Don’t Fix — What’s Before You

Often people simply need someone to bear witness to their chaos, not tame it like an ecclesiastical lion tamer.

You can bless their swirling storm by listening deeply, holding space gently, asking the occasional clarifying question such as, “Is this the whole story, or the version you tell before lunch?” And then — most importantly — pray with them.

A blessing is not a solution. It is a reminder that God inhabits even the most tangled plotlines, working quietly in ways that do not require our heroic improvisation.

In the End…

To bless someone else’s chaos without adding our own is really an act of holy restraint. It is choosing presence over performance, calm over commentary, and compassion over control.

It is also, if we’re honest, choosing not to say the sentence that sits at the tip of every clergy tongue: “My goodness, that’s a mess.”
Instead, we take a breath, smile, and proclaim with gentle faith, “Let’s invite God into this.”

Because the truth is: Christ specializes in meeting people in chaotic places.
And — thanks be to God — the Saviour does not require us to tidy up beforehand.

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A Companion Prayer

Holy One,
Give us the grace to stand steady amid the swirls of others’ lives.
Grant us calm hearts, listening spirits, and humour enough
to remember that we are not the Messiah—
we are simply the ones who point toward the Light.
Bless our presence, that it may bless others
without adding our own chaos to their burden.
In your peace we serve,
Amen.

Christmas Pageant Survival Guide: Incarnational Joy and Controlled Chaos (A Seasonal Meditation for Clergy, Parents, and Anyone Who Has Ever Attempted to Glue Pipe Cleaners to a Halo)

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Incarnational Joy in all its wiggly, wobbly splendour: a glimpse of God’s grace through crooked halos and courageous little shepherds.

Our parish Christmas pagaent will be held on Sunday. Lots of people are busy making the final preparations for this amazing celebration that places us in the final days leading up to all the excitement of Christmas. I am thankful that here at Christ Church we have some amazing Pagaent presentations that can be done in extreme simplicity and avoid the pitfalls of Christmas pagaents past.

In the years of my early ministry, as surely as the Wise Men would follow the star and the shepherds follow the sheep, the parish Christmas Pageant would arrive — glorious, unpredictable, and possessed of a remarkable ability to turn grown adults into nervous wrecks armed with safety pins and bribes of hot chocolate.

The pageant, of course, is meant to be a serene retelling of the Nativity. What it actually became was a delicate dance of incarnational theology and crowd control. It’s the one liturgical event where the Holy Family used to be played by a twelve-year-old who is suddenly “too mature” for this but has agreed under protest, Joseph tried to look stoic while his crook poked him in the ribs, and Mary prayed the Baby Jesus wouldn’t escape her arms like an errant curling stone.

And then there’s the angel contingent — an entire chorus line of celestial beings, each flapping their tinsel wings with the unrestrained enthusiasm of a flock of over-caffeinated seagulls. Somewhere behind them, a sheep is chewing on the edge of a costume left carelessly within reach, and a camel made of two fifth-graders in a burlap sack is contemplating a career change. I have had experiences of a shepherd who was brought into the cast on the very day of the pagaent because the director felt that every child in the parish would be a part of the show, and who — every time a parent would point a camera at the action on stage would forget his non-speaking role, and begin to loudly shout “Cheeeeeeeeeeeeeese” until the picture had been taken. Another year, the tiny innkeeper hearing the beautiful carols played on the Cathedral organ began a wonderful interepretive liturgical dance that brought the house down.

In my experience, pageants unfold in three sacred movements:

1. The Rehearsal of Great Frustration

This is when we realize that no one can remember their lines, the costumes itch, and the baby donkey is allergic to wool. The rector (that would be me) offers reassurance: “It will all come together on the day.” This is, of course, not based on evidence but on the theological virtue of hope.

2. The Pageant of Controlled Chaos

The sanctuary fills. Cameras rise. The organist prays the children won’t start the opening hymn on a note only molars can hear. Mary and Joseph shuffle down the aisle with all the gravitas of two preteens walking into gym class. Something will fall over. Someone will cry. An angel will sneeze glitter. And the congregation will love every second of it.

3. The Benediction of Pure Grace

Because at the end of the day, amid the crooked halos and unevenly stuffed sheep costumes, something holy happens. God chooses to arrive again—not in perfection, but in all our earnest imperfection. The pageant reminds us that the Incarnation isn’t a polished performance. It’s the outrageous truth that God enters our world as it really is: wiggly, uncoordinated, full of surprises, and absolutely overflowing with love.

So, to all who wrangle shepherds, pin wings, mop glitter, and whisper lines from the front pew—take heart. You are participating in one of the holiest forms of chaos the Church has ever known. And the good news is that Emmanuel comes anyway. No perfect staging required.

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Companion Prayer

Holy and Joyful God, Bless all our Christmas pageants — the wandering shepherds, the nervous Marys, the Josephs who didn’t want a speaking role, the angels shedding tinsel like confetti, and the adults holding it all together with tape, prayer, and a sense of humour. In the beautiful chaos of this holy season, let us glimpse again the wonder of your Incarnation: that you come to us not in perfection, but in our real, ordinary, joy-filled lives. May our laughter be prayer, our mistakes be grace, and our pageants be portals to your love made flesh.

Amen.

The Sanctuary Window and the Theology of Light (In which the rector ponders beauty, architecture, and how God insists on shining in even when the custodian swears he just washed that glass last week.)

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When the light insists on preaching its own sermon

There is a moment, usually sometime between the organist’s warm-up and the choir’s collective decision about what key they will be singing in today, when the light catches the sanctuary window just so. It’s the sort of moment that makes even a long-serving rector stop mid-announcement, forgetting entirely what he meant to say about next Thursday’s potluck. The window glows. The dust motes dance like the heavenly host — albeit a somewhat arthritic host — and one is reminded that God has an astonishing tendency to break through our ordinary days with an entirely unreasonable amount of glory.

And this glory if not reserved to stained glass. I vividly remember attending the induction of a friend and colleague in a neighbouring church. It was the most recent church built in our Diocese, and all the windows in the space were clear glass. My very traditional spirit loooked around and thought “It is sad that they haven’t had the budget to put stained glass in those spaces.” As that induction carried on, clouds rolled in and the evening changed into one of those late-summer thunder storms with grey clouds and lightening flashing. And after having the opportunity to simply see the beauty of God’s creation lived out in the windows of that worship space, I found myself thinking instead, “I hope they never clutter up this space with stained glass.” That window over the altar was radiant as an opening onto seeing God moving all around us.

Of course, the sanctuary window was not originally installed for my spiritual benefit. It was, according to the Building Committee minutes from 1857, “to provide natural illumination while reducing the need for artificial lighting and thus lowering costs.” The saints through the ages have spoken of light as divine revelation; succeeding generations spoke of it as a merciful reduction to the electrical bill. And yet — God works with what God is given.

You see, the window holds a theology all its own. Light pours through it uninvited, unregulated, and entirely unfazed by our human attempts at liturgical control. It will fall boldly on the cross whether it’s Lent or not. It will illuminate the lectern on a Sunday when the preacher is, shall we say, not at their very best. And it will bathe the baptismal font in a radiant glow even when the baby is fiercely objecting to the Christian life by way of a bellowing protest.

Light, you see, does what light does: it reveals, it warms, it pushes back shadows gently but with purpose. It refuses to scold us for our dim corners but quietly fills them. No wonder Jesus was so fond of the metaphor. No wonder the early church built its sanctuaries with windows high and wide — somewhere between an architectural offering and a practical apology for not having invented LED bulbs yet.

And isn’t that just like grace? Beautifully indifferent to our self-consciousness, unwilling to be boxed in by our rules, arriving through the cracks of our careful living. I’ve often thought the sanctuary window preaches the shortest, loveliest sermon imaginable: “Let me in. I will do the rest.”

Even on the cloudiest days — those grey Canadian mornings when the sun seems to have taken a personal day — the window still gathers what little light there is and shares it with the room. Hope doesn’t need much to get started. A thin ray. A shy glimmer. A small mercy refracted into something larger. It’s architectural evangelism: the building itself proclaiming that God will find a way to shine.

And so we sit beneath the window each week — joyful or tired, certain or bewildered — and allow the light to fall where it will. On the beloved. On the broken. On the latecomers and the early arrivers and the rector who forgot to charge his microphone again. There are no favourites in the economy of radiance.

If you ask me, churches should worry less about filling the pews and more about noticing the light that’s already filling the room. For wherever light is, there is Christ — quietly insisting that beauty still matters, that hope is not foolish, and that God’s love remains far more luminous than anything we can manufacture.

May our lives, like that window, always find a way to let the Light in.

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Companion Prayer

Holy Light,
Shine through the windows of our hearts —
even the ones we have forgotten to open.
Chase away the shadows of worry and weariness.
Fill us with your warmth, your clarity, your unwavering hope.
Make us bearers of your brightness
in a world too accustomed to dimness.
Amen.

When the Baby in the Pew Preaches a Better Sermon What infants know about joy, incarnation, and the timing of Communion

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Sometimes the best preacher in the room can’t even walk yet.

There are Sundays — rare, miraculous Sundays — when a baby in the third pew manages to preach a better sermon than the rector.

I say this without resentment. Well… perhaps a manageable hint of clerical envy. After all, I studied theology, parsed Greek verbs, and once wrote a paper on the eschatology of the subjunctive mood. Yet on any given Sunday, along comes a gurgling eight-month-old who, without a single footnote, distills the entire mystery of the Incarnation into an unrestrained squeal of delight at the Gloria.

Now, I grant you, infants are not known for their homiletical structure. They don’t lead with an anecdote, offer three tidy points, or quote Augustine in a way that makes the wardens nod approvingly. Instead, they preach with the sort of spontaneous theological charisma that makes you wonder why seminary doesn’t offer a course entitled Advanced Babbling for Liturgical Impact.

Consider the sacred moment just before Communion.
I stand at the altar. The choir inhales. The congregation settles into that reverent silence that suggests deep spiritual intention… or the sudden realization that no one remembered to plug in the kettle for coffee hour.

And then — right on cue — the baby preaches.
Not with words, of course, but with a tiny squawk of anticipation that seems to say, Something good is happening, people! Lean in! Somebody’s about to feed us, and this is excellent news!

It is hard not to hear echoes of Luke’s Gospel: “Out of the mouths of babes…” which, translated into Anglican, means, “This child knows exactly what’s going on, and the adults should try keeping up.”

What Infants Know About Joy

Infants have not yet learned the fine art of dignified restraint, which is sometimes mistaken for holiness in our circles. Their joy is not measured, polite, or synod-appropriate. It erupts like a liturgical fountain at the most unexpected moments — mid-sermon, during the Nicene Creed, or just as I’m trying to say something profound about the prophets.

And perhaps that is precisely the point: joy, real joy, does not wait for the right moment. It simply is. It bubbles up as freely as a baby discovering their own toes.

What Infants Know About Incarnation

While we wax eloquent about the Word made flesh, infants simply live it.
They remind us that God came as one of these: small, needy, noisy, occasionally sticky, and profoundly present. If you’ve ever held a baby during worship, you’ve already understood more about the Incarnation than the most sophisticated Christological treatise could offer — because God chose to come close enough to hold.

What Infants Know About the Timing of Communion

Babies do not worry about liturgical sequence.
They do not mind whether we stand, kneel, or adopt the “Anglican lean.”
What they do know is that when someone offers you love, nourishment, and belonging, the correct response is always the same:

“Yes, please! And could we do that again soon?”

In this way, the baby in the pew often understands Communion with more clarity than the rest of us combined. For them, it is not ritual — it is relationship. Not duty, but delight. Not a theological puzzle, but a meal where love becomes edible.

And every so often, when we are paying attention, that tiny preacher reminds us what the sermon has been trying to say all along: that we are loved into being, welcomed without precondition, and invited again and again to feast on grace.

So if, next Sunday, you find yourself distracted mid-sermon by the delighted squeal of a baby, do not fret.
The Spirit may very well be whispering through that little voice:

“Take heart. This faith of yours is supposed to be joyful.”

And maybe — just maybe — the baby has preached the better sermon.

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A Companion Prayer

Gracious God,
You come to us in surprising voices —
in Scripture, in sacrament,
and sometimes in the joyful noise of the smallest among us.
Teach our hearts to welcome wonder,
to embrace joy without reservation,
and to come to your table with the eager trust of a child.
Make us attentive to your presence
in the pew beside us and within our own lives,
for you are always drawing near.
Amen.

Advent, Halfway There and Entirely Interrupted: A Wednesday Meditation on Holy Waiting

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An Advent Wreath… Some candles lit, and some still waiting — sort of like us.

By the Wednesday after the Third Sunday of Advent, we find ourselves in the precise middle of everything—and in charge of very little.

Half the candles have been lit. Half the days remain. Half the preparations are finished, while the other half are waiting patiently in a pile labelled “I’ll deal with that later.” Wednesday has a way of doing that. It stands firmly between intention and completion, reminding us — without apology — that we are not nearly as organized as we had hoped by now.

This is not a failure of Advent. It is, in fact, its preferred operating system.

Advent at midweek is not about dramatic gestures or heroic spirituality. It is about learning to wait while the world keeps interrupting us. It is about holding hope in one hand while answering emails with the other. It is about discovering that God is perfectly willing to arrive while we are still mid-sentence.

The scriptures around this time do not offer us a checklist so much as a promise: God is drawing near. Not once everything is polished. Not once the schedule settles down. But right here, in the middle of the week, in the middle of the mess, in the middle of our best-laid plans.

It is such that this blogger might observe that humanity, having been promised salvation, immediately responded by inventing spreadsheets and wondering why joy refuses to be itemized. And Advent gently chuckles at our efforts, reminding us that the coming of Christ is not something we manage — it is something we receive.

So this Wednesday, if you feel caught between anticipation and exhaustion, take comfort. You are not behind. You are simply mid-Advent. And God, it seems, does some of God’s best work precisely in the middle of things.

The miracle is still on its way.
And somehow, wonderfully, so is the grace to wait.

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A Companion Prayer

Faithful God,
in the middle of this week
and the middle of this season,
meet us where we are.
Calm our anxious planning,
steady our distracted hearts,
and teach us to trust your timing.
As we wait for the coming of your Son,
help us to notice your presence
already among us—
in the unfinished,
the interrupted,
and the ordinary moments of our days.
We ask this through Jesus Christ,
our hope and our joy.
Amen.

Finding Rest in the Ten Minutes Before the Next Thing

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SAcred pauses: Finding God in ten minutes before the next thing

There is a peculiar holiness in those ten minutes before the next thing. You know the ones I mean. The ten minutes before choir practice, when the altos are searching for their tuning forks like archaeologists unearthing relics. The ten minutes before the parish advisory meeting, when everyone is still hopeful and charitable, blissfully unaware of any agenda items involving budgets or roof leaks. The ten minutes before Sunday worship, when the church is quiet — except, of course, for the rumble of the coffee percolator and the occasional acolyte sprinting past like a startled gazelle.

It is in these rare and precious pockets of time — those ten-minute intervals that appear between the good, the chaotic, and the divinely unpredictable — that we are invited into rest. Not the grand rest of sabbaticals or spa retreats or the mythical “slow weekend” we promise ourselves every June. No, I mean the rest we can actually get: the holy pause, the sacrament of stopping, the spiritual deep breath that arrives before the next thing barrels toward us with all the subtlety of a thurible swung by an enthusiastic novice thurifer.

Scripture, of course, is full of moments where God moves in the margins. Elijah hears the still small voice not in the storm, but in the quiet after it. Jesus sneaks away before the disciples can ask Him one more clarifying question about the parables. Even the psalmist whispers, “Be still, and know…” as if knowing God requires stillness — or at least ten uninterrupted minutes of it.

The trouble is that we often treat these in-between moments as disposable. “Oh, I’ve got ten minutes! I can answer three emails, reorganize my entire life, and possibly rework the sermon illustration so it no longer involves sheep in quite such a dramatic fashion!” But rest, true rest, rarely barges in uninvited. It prefers to slip gently into the room like a kindly parishioner carrying a plate of cookies you didn’t ask for but are deeply grateful to receive.

What if — just imagine — what if the ten minutes before the next thing were not simply the warm-up act for the main event, but the very place where God is already waiting for us? What if these moments are less about preparation and more about presence?

Rest isn’t the absence of activity; it’s the presence of peace.

So I offer this modest proposal: let us reclaim the ten-minute window. Let it be a moment to sit down before someone asks why we’re standing. Let it be the deep breath before the hymn, the whispered prayer before the meeting, the smile shared with no one in particular simply because grace showed up and sat down beside you.

And in the Anglican tradition, resting for ten minutes is essentially the same as keeping a minor feast day — optional, reverent, and best accompanied by tea.

My friends, life will always give us the next thing. God gives us the ten minutes before it.

May we have the good sense to notice.
And perhaps — God helping us — the courage to rest.

Amen.

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Companion Prayer

Holy God, You meet us not only in the great moments of life, but in the quiet pauses before the next thing. Teach us to rest in You — to breathe deeply, to be still, and to welcome Your peace into the small spaces of our day. Help us receive these ten-minute graces as gifts, not accidents; as invitations, not interruptions. Refresh our spirits, steady our hearts, and prepare us gently for whatever comes next. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

The Outdoor Nativity: A Seasonal Drama in Three Acts

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Stable conditions on the church lawn: Where the holy meets the windy.

Every December, as faithfully as the magi following their star and as inevitably as the choir breaking into spontaneous disharmony during warm-ups, our parish assembles the Outdoor Nativity Scene on the church lawn.

It is, I must say, one of our holiest annual undertakings — where devotional intention meets meteorological mischief and a surprising amount of zip-ties.

Act I: The Unboxing of Holiness

There is nothing quite like retrieving the Nativity figures from the depths of the parish storage room. Each year, I open the boxes with the same reverence devotees bring to sacred relics — only to find that Joseph’s nose has once again detached itself and migrated mysteriously into Mary’s veil. The shepherds emerge looking slightly shell-shocked, which is fair, given they’ve been living in a Rubbermaid tomb for eleven months.

The Wise Men always appear particularly regal, though one of them — Melchior, if memory serves — has a leaning problem. Every Advent he slowly tilts to the left, as though pondering a deep theological question or perhaps simply giving up on posture until Epiphany.

Act II: Installation on the Lawn (Also Known as the Annual Wrestling Match)

Setting up the Nativity on the lawn is something between a liturgical dance and an episode of Survivor. The wind, as a rule, is against us. The stakes (literal and metaphorical) are high. And every year, like clockwork, someone asks, “Should we just wait until the ground isn’t frozen?”

To which the proper Anglican response is, “Oh no, we couldn’t possibly.”

Once arranged, the Holy Family stands serenely, as though they have no idea they will shortly become the unwilling adversaries of winter storms. Baby Jesus lies swaddled in His cradle, blissfully unaware that within days He may be gently relocated by a well-meaning toddler visitor — or an over-curious neighbourhood raccoon. (We do love our outreach ministries.)

Act III: The Seasons of the Nativity

There is a moment — usually right at dusk — when the lights switch on and the Nativity scene glows with that peaceful, impossible calm that makes every passerby pause. For all our fussing, zip-tying, frostbitten fingers, and attempts to persuade Joseph to face due east instead of gazing forlornly at the shrubbery, the effect is beautiful.

This little tableau on the lawn becomes a small sermon in itself. A reminder that God shows up not in curated perfection but in fields, stables, church lawns, and even in our lopsided attempts to proclaim good news with plywood saints and Styrofoam sheep.

Each year someone asks me if the Nativity will ever be replaced with something more modern — perhaps inflatable, perhaps illuminated, perhaps interactive. I simply smile and say, “If the Holy Family has survived two millennia, they can surely withstand another Canadian winter.”

And they do.
With dignity.
With grace.
With occasional rescue missions after a windstorm.

And we love them for it.

A Pastoral Thought

Our outdoor Nativity reminds me that incarnation isn’t tidy. It happens in the cold, in the awkward, in the wind-blown, in the delightfully human. It happens wherever we dare to place Christ visibly in the world — even on the front lawn.

May our own lives shine with the same slightly-askew but deeply sincere proclamation:
Emmanuel has come. God is with us. Even here. Even now.

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A Companion Prayer

Holy God,
As we look upon the Nativity on our lawn,
steady in the wind and shining in the dusk,
grant us the grace to make room for Christ
in the ordinary and the unpredictable.
Bless all who pass by and glimpse Your love,
and make our lives joyful signs of Your presence.
In the name of the Word made flesh. Amen.

The Gospel According to the Church Thermostat: A Reflection on Holy Temperature Wars and the Peaceable Kingdom

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Where two or three are gathered… one of them will be adjusting the thermostat.

If one had accidentally looked in on our most recent Parish Advisory Committee meeting one might have been excused for the laughter that might have ensued. There we were, gathered around the table with gloves and mittens. Some still wore their winter coats, or at the very least, had them drawn around their shoulders. We had arrived for the meeting to discover that the furnace was not functioning, and that the parish hall was incredibl;y cold. As it turned out, at some point in the previous few days, some well-meaning individual had attempted to raise the temperature on the thermostat, and in-so-doing, had managed to take the furnace out of heating mode altogether.

Every parish has its theological flashpoints — questions that have shaped Christian discourse for centuries. Incarnation, Trinity, ecclesiology, and of course the perennial mystery: who keeps turning the church thermostat up (or down, or in this most recent experience, OFF)?

If St. Paul had been writing to a modern congregation, I’m convinced there would be an additional epistle tucked somewhere between Galatians and Ephesians entitled, “Paul, an apostle of Christ Jesus, to the congregation most grievously afflicted by temperature fluctuations.” He would begin, as always, with grace and peace — but he’d quickly get to the heart of the matter: “Brethren, I hear that some among you insist the sanctuary is too warm, while others declare it is colder than a Canadian February — this should not be so!”

Friends, the church thermostat is not merely a beige rectangle on the wall. No, it is a spiritual barometer of the community. In any given parish, there are at least four factions:


    1.    The Perpetually Frozen
These are the saints who arrive wearing scarves knitted during the first Trudeau administration and who sit in the pews shivering like penitents at the gates of heaven.
They insist the church is “an icebox” and whisper urgent prayers: “Come, Holy Spirit — and bring warmth!”

    2.    The Radiantly Overheated
This group fans themselves with the bulletin until it resembles a tropical palm frond.
They claim that the temperature has reached “the fourth circle of Dante’s sauna” and ask if the rector is preparing us for life in the desert — or perhaps another dire place where temperatures are said to be warmer still.


    3.    The Secret Adjusters
These are the sneakiest of parishioners. They move silently during fellowship hour, sidling up to the thermostat like a liturgical ninja, adjusting it by two degrees and hoping no one will notice. Alas—everyone notices.


    4.    The Switzerland Contingent
These blessed souls sit in equanimity, apparently unaffected by temperature at all. They are the living embodiment of Isaiah’s peaceable kingdom: the lamb lies down with the lion, and apparently the sweltering sit comfortably beside the freezing. These are the people we aspire to be… but usually only after coffee hour.

And then, of course, there is the rector — caught in the middle, like a referee in an ecclesiastical climate summit. I have found that explaining the intricacies of the building’s HVAC system (“It’s actually on a timed cycle,” “It takes two hours to adjust,” “The Spirit blows where it wills”) elicits the same response as preaching a 45-minute sermon on Levitical purity laws: nodding, smiling, and absolutely no change in behaviour.

But here’s the thing: Temperature wars, in all their absurdity, illuminate something true about being the Church. We are a people who gather despite our differences — political, theological, and yes, thermal. We come together because Christ has drawn us into one Body, not by making us the same, but by teaching us how to love each other in our delightful, quirky, contradictory humanity.

When we can sit beside one another — one person wrapped in a shawl, the other peeling off layers like an onion — and still say “Peace of Christ,” we glimpse the Kingdom.

Warm or cool, drafty or cozy, overheated or downright Arctic — the miracle is that Christ meets us there.

And so, the gospel according to the church thermostat is simply this: Love one another, even when you strongly suspect the person next to you just turned the temperature up three degrees.

A Companion Prayer

Holy God,
You who created fire and frost, warmth and coolness,
Teach us to live peaceably with one another—
even when we disagree about the temperature.
Grant patience to the overheated, comfort to the chilly,
wisdom to the secret adjusters,
and grace to all who navigate the climate of community.
Make our hearts warmer than our arguments
and our fellowship cooler than our frustrations.
In all things, knit us together in the perfect harmony of Christ.
Amen.

Lessons from the Parish Snow Shovel A meditation on vocation, perseverance, and the spiritual gift of not slipping on the church steps.

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Sometimes the holiest work is done before anyone arrives — one faithful shovel at a time.

It’s winter in Ontario. Whether we like it or not, that means that we need to renew our acquaintance with the snow shovel.

There is nothing quite like the first snowfall to remind a parish priest of two great spiritual truths:
    1.    Winter has arrived with all the subtlety of a brass band, and
    2.    The Lord loves us, but apparently expects us to shovel.

I maintain that every congregation has a parish snow shovel — sometimes two, occasionally seventeen, depending on how many enthusiastic parishioners felt moved by the Spirit during a Canadian Tire clearance sale. Ours is the humble, slightly bent, eternally loyal instrument of winter sanctification. It leans in the narthex like a weary monk, waiting for the next call to service, or possibly just hoping someone will fix its wobbly handle before Easter.

Now, shovelling the church walkway is no small thing. It is a peculiar blend of vocation, perseverance, and cardio. One moment, you are a serene person contemplating the mysteries of the Incarnation; the next, you are locked in mortal combat with a drift that appears to be actively resisting conversion. If snow has spiritual gifts, stubbornness is surely one of them.

I have learned over the years that the parish snow shovel teaches us ministry in miniature.
It reminds us that:

  1. Vocation is often discovered at the bottom of the steps.
    God may indeed call through burning bushes, but more often the call arrives as a text from the junior warden saying, “Father, the steps are a skating rink again.” And suddenly, you discover that vocation includes the prophetic, the pastoral, and the mildly heroic.
  2. Perseverance is a fancy word for “keep going.”
    Shovelling is a sacrament of persistence. Just when you clear the last step, a gust of wind topples a fresh load of snow upon your newly minted masterpiece, as though the weather itself is testing your eschatology. Ministry, too, has this recurring quality: finish one task, and three more drift in.
  3. The spiritual gift of not slipping is under-appreciated.
    Let us be honest — nothing humbles a priest faster than performing an involuntary liturgical dance on icy stone. Yet each careful step becomes a prayer: “Lord, plant my feet on higher ground — or at least a dry one.” Grace abounds, but so does ice.
  4. Service done quietly is sometimes the holiest of all.
    When the early parishioners arrive and walk safely inside without noticing the labour that made their welcome possible, there is a gentle joy in that hidden kindness. The Kingdom grows as much through cleared steps as through soaring sermons.

So let us take heart, friends. Whether you wield the parish snow shovel yourself or pray fervently for those who do, remember this: God is somehow in the shovelling. In the small, cold, persistent tasks that keep a community moving forward — one step, one scrape, one determined heave at a time. And in this, we find the quiet beauty of vocation lived faithfully, boots crunching on fresh snow.

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Companion Prayer

Gracious God,
Bless all who labour in winter’s chill—those who clear steps, shovel paths, and make safe the way for others.
Grant us perseverance when the drifts are deep, humour when the ice is slippery, and gratitude for every unseen act of service that builds your Kingdom in gentle ways.
Keep our feet steady, our hearts warm, and our spirits joyful in all we do for love of you.
Amen.

Circling Into Hope: Thoughts on the Advent Wreath

Me and My Advent Wreath | Office of Religious and Spiritual Life - McGill  University
Holding the circle, holding the light, holding our hope — one candle at a time.

There is an unmistakable moment every year — usually sometime around the first Sunday of Advent — when the Advent wreath appears in the sanctuary like a seasonal celebrity making its grand entrance. One minute the chancel looks perfectly ordinary, and the next there it is: a fir-sprigged crown of theological symbolism and mild fire hazards, perched proudly as if to say, “Yes, I am evergreen, thank you for noticing.”

In many parishes, the placement of the Advent wreath is accompanied by a level of ceremonial care normally reserved for coronations, royal weddings, and the changing of the toner cartridge. It is carried in with a reverence suggesting that if one drops it, Christmas itself may be delayed until further notice.

I remember one late Advent Sunday when the Christmas Tree had already been set up in the church ahead of the pagaent that would happen the following Sunday. It was placed in the front windos of the church, alongside the beautiful Advent wreath. On that almost ill-fated Sunday, as the children left for Sunday school, the Advent wreath with its many lit candles was knocked over into the 12 foot of blue spruce that was our annual Christmas tree. Fortunately a nearby warden jumped in quickly and extinguished the nascent fire on the tree. t would require a little turn to conceal the singed bits, but overall, escaped relatively unscathed.

But setting minor fire hazards aside, what a beautiful, hope-laden thing that Advent wreath is. Round like God’s unending love; green like the promise that life somehow refuses to quit; and studded with candles that bravely stand upright even when the heating vents conspire against them.

Of course, the lighting of the candles can be… shall we say… spiritually character-building. If Stephen Leacock had been an acolyte, he’d have written a multi-volume tragicomedy titled On the Futility of Matches. Anyone who has tried to coax an uncooperative candle to ignite in front of a watching congregation knows that nothing tests one’s sanctification quite like a lighter that sputters or a wick that seems made of Teflon. And yet — somehow — the flame eventually catches, to the quiet relief of clergy, servers, and parish fire marshals alike.

Each week we light another candle. Hope. Peace. Joy. Love. And the middle one — Christ’s candle — if your wreath is so equipped, the great show-stopper of Christmas Eve. They glow with a gentle stubbornness in the early winter darkness, preaching a sermon even before the rector can clear their throat.

Hope: the kind that wakes us up.
Peace: the kind the world keeps forgetting it needs.
Joy: the kind that sneaks up on us between harmonies in “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel.”
Love: the kind that knows our names, our stories, and our need for a do-over.

And in that small circle of flame and evergreen, the church is saying something bold:
We are waiting, yes. But we are not waiting hopelessly.

We are leaning toward the Light.

Sometimes we may feel like one of the candles that just doesn’t want to catch — a bit windblown, a bit weary, wick perhaps trimmed too short by life’s shears. But every Advent wreath reminds us that God keeps trying. God keeps leaning close, whispering that spark of grace, coaxing us toward our own small brilliance.

By Christmas, the wreath has done its work. It has counted down the holy days, endured the drafts, and — if yours is like most parishes — has shed more greenery than a nervous hedgehog. But it has held the circle. It has held the light. And it has held us in the promise that God is coming close, again and always.

May our lives glow with something of that quiet courage, that gentle defiance, that evergreen hope.

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A Companion Prayer

Holy One,
As the candles of the Advent wreath mark our waiting,
kindle in us the flame of hope that does not fade,
the peace that steadies us,
the joy that bubbles up unexpectedly,
and the love that circles us round.
Light our lives with the coming of Christ,
that we may shine with your grace
in a world longing for warmth.
Amen.