
There are places in parish life where heaven and earth seem to meet — around the altar, of course; in the parish hall when the coffee is fresh; and, surprisingly often, in that most misunderstood of ecclesial ecosystems: the church parking lot.
If sanctuaries are for prayer and proclamation, then the parking lot is where the liturgy of lived community begins. It’s the narthex before the narthex, the first impression for newcomers, and the last frontier for seasoned parishioners who have mastered the arts of potluck navigation, vestry debate survival, and knowing which pew has optimal lumbar support. But nothing — nothing — prepares the soul for the mysterious choreography of Sunday traffic flow.
To the uninitiated, it looks like chaos. To the seasoned parish priest, it is a living parable.
There are, for instance, the early arrivals — those beloved saints who pull into the lot with the same steady purpose as monastics heading for morning prayer. They park with grace and dignity, leaving generous space between vehicles as though writing a sermon about hospitality with their bumpers.
Then the mid-morning rush begins. This is when a curious spiritual law emerges: no matter how many empty spots remain, everyone will still try to park as close to the front door as possible. I’ve seen drivers circle the lot three times, apparently discerning the will of God regarding proximity, only to accept the Holy Spirit’s gentle nudge: “Park in the name of Jesus, and walk.”
Meanwhile, children tumble out of minivans with bulletins already flying like liturgical confetti, and someone — usually the choir alto — realizes they’ve left their music folder in the car, thus beginning a small but meaningful pilgrimage.
But the true moment of sanctification arrives after the dismissal.
Nowhere in the New Testament are we commanded, “Thou shalt not honk,” yet every Sunday, we choose the narrow path of patience. Cars attempt to leave from five different directions at once, in a pattern reminiscent of the Israelites wandering the desert — though with slightly more grumbling. There’s always a kind soul who waves ten cars ahead, and another who inadvertently blocks the entire westbound flow by attempting to back out of a space at an angle known only to theoretical physicists.
And in this sacred gridlock, we practice the spiritual discipline of grace.
We wave. We smile. We inch forward as though moving through molasses, gently reminding ourselves that we have just proclaimed Christ’s peace and perhaps ought to live it at least until we reach the road.
The parking lot, for all its quirks, teaches us something essential. Hospitality begins long before anyone reaches the front steps. Patience is forged on pavement as much as in prayer. Community is experienced in the gentle negotiation of whose turn it is to go next.
And perhaps best of all: every week, without fail, the church parking lot gathers us — messy, late, joyful, weary, eager, distracted — into a single space and sends us out again with the quiet hope that we will recognize the holy in the everyday places where rubber meets road.
May our parking lots be safe, our traffic patterns merciful,
and our honking held firmly in check.
Companion Prayer
Gracious God,
In the simple coming and going of our church parking lot,
teach us the ways of patience, hospitality, and gentle grace.
Help us to see one another not as obstacles to navigate,
but as neighbours to love.
Bless our arrivals with gratitude,
our departures with peace,
and our moments of waiting with the quiet reminder
that we travel this road together.
In Christ, who guides every step and every stoplight,
Amen.








