Conflict Resolution and the Power of Community: Lessons from Matthew 18:15-20

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Receiving the Coventry Cross of Nails from Canon Sarah Hills — Canon for Reconciliation for Coventry Cathedral

Conflict is an inevitable part of human life, even within our faith communities. However, how we address and resolve conflicts can make all the difference in maintaining the unity and love that should define our Christian communities. In Matthew 18:15-20, Jesus provides us with a framework for conflict resolution within the context of the Christian community. Let’s delve into this passage and uncover the valuable lessons it holds for us.

I. The Gentle Path of Reconciliation (Matthew 18:15):

In verse 15, Jesus begins by outlining a step-by-step process for addressing conflicts. He encourages a direct, one-on-one approach, saying, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you.” This approach prioritizes reconciliation, preserving the dignity of both parties while addressing the issue privately and respectfully. I can’t think of how many conflictual situations that grew to be huge and problematic, that could have been handled easily with simple one to one communication.

II. The Power of Community Involvement (Matthew 18:16):

Should the initial one-on-one encounter not lead to resolution, Jesus advises involving one or two others. He says, “But if they will not listen, take one or two others along.” This step introduces accountability and the wisdom of a larger community into the process. It emphasizes that we are not meant to navigate conflicts alone; our Christian community is there to support and guide us.

III. The Authority of Unity (Matthew 18:18-20):

One of the most remarkable aspects of this passage is found in verses 18-20, where Jesus speaks of the authority of the community in matters of conflict resolution. He says, “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” This underscores the profound spiritual significance of Christian community and unity in addressing conflicts. When we gather in His name and seek reconciliation, Christ’s presence is palpable, and heaven itself responds to our actions.

IV. Radical Love

Jesus then tells the disciples that if all of this fails, then let that person be to you as a Gentile or Tax collector. On a quick read, that seems like permission to give up and walk away.  In truth it is anything but.  The primary mission field of Jesus and his disciples was the Gentiles.  And Matthew himself was a tax collector. This is a call to renew our efforts with that person.  Don’t give up. Love that person enough to reach out to them anew.  It is the Radical love of Jesus to keep reaching to bring this one back into the community.  Reconciliation must go beyond normal levels of love.

V. The Call to Forgive and Reconcile (Matthew 18:21-22):

While not part of the immediate context, it’s worth noting that right after this passage, Peter asks Jesus about forgiveness, to which Jesus responds with the famous teaching about forgiving seventy times seven times (Matthew 18:21-22). This further reinforces the theme of reconciliation and forgiveness as central to Christian community life.

Matthew 18:15-20 is not merely a guide for conflict resolution; it is a blueprint for fostering a community rooted in love, humility, and reconciliation. It reminds us that conflict, though challenging, can be an opportunity for growth, deeper relationships, and a demonstration of Christ’s transformative love.

As members of the Christian community, let us take these teachings to heart. Let us approach conflicts with a commitment to reconciliation, humility, and love. Let us involve our community for guidance and support when needed, recognizing the authority of unity in Christ. And let us remember that forgiveness and reconciliation are at the core of our faith, reflecting the boundless grace we have received from our god.

In living out the lessons of Matthew 18:15-20, we not only resolve conflicts but also bear witness to the love of Christ, strengthening the bonds of our faith community and furthering God’s kingdom on earth.

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